THE PATH TO LIVING BEYOND | #THEHUE
What it takes to journey into lifelong transformation and liberate yourself to Live Beyond.
Embarking on a journey of transformation requires important prerequisites of internal motivation preceding all attempts, as true change comes from within. As the road ahead is always uncertain and unpredictable, the acceptance to endure turbulence and embrace imperfections throughout is also necessary. True transformation demands lifelong persistence and a definitive ‘why’.
EXTERNAL VERSUS INTERNAL
While external goals, like appearance and weight loss, might help to get you started, they won’t sustain you through the harsher days. Instead, what’s important is understanding how to own your subjective motivation.
The reason you endure your journey must first and foremost be real and authentic to your goals and values. This definition is what needs to come before facing the tough challenges that are sure to follow such a feat. So, an unwavering commitment to yourself is mandatory.
As on the path to becoming your best, it’s not enough to do things for recognition, validation, or accolades. Neither is it enough to do things for someone else. As such fickle reasons, may start you and sustain you momentarily, but external motivations will never last to maintain your spark over a lifetime.
It is also while enduring those difficult moments that your intent is truly tested. What separates those who persist and eventually succeed at the highest levels are those who are doing things for the sake of the pursuits themselves or for an unwavering commitment to the visions they see for themselves.
With the knowledge available, equip and empower yourself, as true change can only come from within— through your actions. This is why self-mastery must take prominence. You are the only one that holds the ultimate power to shape your own life and destiny. No one else has that responsibility of the influence.
Quick fixes and shortcuts sell the dream of success, but such ideas are mere illusions to hook you in. But, real transformation requires time, patience, persistence, and sustainable progress over a lifetime— and the ones that stay persistent for longer are the ones you’ll notice. Failure only happens when you stop trying.
COMMITMENT TO A LIFESTYLE CHANGE
A lifestyle change is at the core of true transformation and why self-discovery is part of the journey. You must journey through your own life and have the desire to replace old habits with new ones.
To stay disciplined in doing the things that support your flourishing the most and to embrace the parts of you that continue to support your growth, as many moments as you can create.
Doing this for yourself, committing to yourself, and valuing yourself is what will uncover your capacity for self-love— and it is the bedrock of not only this method but life in general.
SELF-WORTH IS A FOUNDATIONAL VALUE
Nurturing self-worth is a foundational value, without which, you will lead yourself into a never-ending abyss of actions motivated only by your insecurities and growth motivated by the need to fill a fear or void of never feeling enough.
To truly value yourself requires a change in perspective. The reality is absolute confidence in yourself is a slow, yet necessary learning. It’s not about how many lives you’ve lived or how old you are, but, rather, wisdom in self-mastery that is necessary.
If you don’t yet already possess a positive perspective of yourself, then that’s the first thing you need to work on. If you’re unsure of what I mean, ask yourself, how do you most often speak to yourself? Are you proud of how you speak to yourself? Would you be happy to speak to others in the same way you speak to yourself?
HISTORIES AND TRAUMAS
Your history and traumas may have conditioned you to believe that you are unlovable or enough. This is why many of us find it difficult to step off the relentless hamster wheel of achievements, validations, and accomplishments because, for a lot of us, we are always chasing the allusive feeling of feeling enough. The story we’ve been told by media and advertising is that how by having more you’ll finally feel enough. But this is a slippery slope that’ll never end.
As what you are seeking is external validation through capitalistic and material value. But, with the newfound knowledge and tools widely available to you, you can remain curious and reject your conditioning, to help you move beyond your old framework of operating. This is a process that’s easier said than done, especially when the main currents of the world will continue to feed you lies. The responsibility to discern and define your own values is up to you.
Working on yourself is not selfish; it is selfless, as becoming the best version of yourself will create a ripple effect of making the world a better place for all. If you can show up as your best selves— as happier and healthier individuals— then those around you will sense and gravitate toward the radiance in you.
Remember, joy is a feeling. It’s an energy that radiates and joy is indeed contagious. It’s hard to imagine someone being cruel to others and the world, while also being whole and happy within. Hurt people hurt people. Healed people heal people.
With all the information around you, you can equip and empower yourself beyond the suffering and trauma you’ve endured. All those chains need no longer hold you back. While each of us goes through different degrees of suffering and trauma, as the saying goes: suffering is always suffering to the one that suffers.
NURTURE CURIOSITY
Curiosity and determination are necessary pillars of a fulfilled life. You can reclaim your power back and begin to embark on a lifelong transformation. Just know that it’s never too late. You have your entire lifetime ahead of you to look forward to.
Most importantly, know that the journey of unlocking transformation and tapping into the joy of liberation awaits. I hope you choose to embrace your potential and create a world where happiness radiates.
In support of yourself, let’s focus on going inwards, so we can together live beyond and create a better tomorrow for the generations to come.
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